How To Make Money As A Stripper

There is a perception that strippers just show up to work, stand around and guys throw money at them. This is simply not true. Making money as a stripper is hard work. 

Hard work physically, emotionally and mentally. To truly make bank as a stripper you need to be able to sell, listen and be unattainable to your customers in the real world.  

Before we dig into the finer details of the actual hustle let me make this clear that this article is perfect for beginners, strippers who are happy to reach a certain level and those that want to squeeze every last dollar out of every shift and have fun along the way. There are various techniques out there and if I have missed some please feel free to comment on this post. 

Let me begin by telling you that you deserve more!! 

Any stripper that has been in the game long enough will tell you that this job can be mentally draining at times. 

You are likely to have customers physically and mentally abuse you. 

You will be called every insult a patron can muster. 

You will be judged on your appearance by men who physically repulse you. 

You will be judged by your family, friends and society.

The above is the mental ammo you need to demand more financially from yourself. 

Demanding and highly stressful jobs deserve pay reflective of what is endured, but only to an extent. The top earners work hard for it. If your motivations to enter this industry are like many before you, it comes down to making money. 

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So, how can you make the most amount of money out of a shift? 

There are three components that will help you maximise your earning potential; your appearance, your mindset and sales skills. Let’s dig into the first one. 

Your Appearance

Guys are visual creatures and they will naturally gravitate towards women that they find physically attractive. So be the best version of you. Wear outfits that will accentuate your assets and hide your flaws. 

Learn how to apply glamour makeup like a pro and discover which glam false eyelashes work best for you. Learn how to style your hair. Use hair extensions if needed. 

If you can’t pull off the white porcelain doll look then seriously consider fake tan (but make sure it’s one that doesn’t rub off easily as some guys are very wary of this).

If you do the above, you will find that guys will walk straight up to you at times and just ask to take you for a lap dance. And you haven’t even turned on the charm yet.

Appearance is one thing, sales is another. A part of sales is setting goals and identifying your target market. 

Setting Goals

Set a financial target each night. Want to make $800 take home or more? You need to have a target. 

Before you start work that night, set a target. Now that you have a target, break it down. 

Break it down in how many one hour, thirty minute, twenty minute or ten minute dances you would need to get to clear that goal. 

I found using a combination of dance lengths to aim for worked for me. Write them down. 

As you obtain dances, cross them off the list. This will help to drive you further. 

Some nights you won’t reach your goal but by having this mindset it will help you achieve it more times than not. 

On nights when you do reach your goal, reset it and whatever you make from here use to spoil yourself. 

Your Target Market

Whilst some girls just walk up to everyone (and this can be a great technique), I personally found it more beneficial to survey the room first and look to identify hot targets. 

I would look for guys on their own. A guy on his own has willingly chosen to come to a stripclub, whereas a group of guys will usually have a mix of willing and unwilling guys. 

Once I have identified a guy on his own I would then watch his body language. If he has open body language and is not staring intently at another girl I would then go over. 

If none of the single guys have open body language I would still approach them but it could be a harder sale. 

In the event that all the single guys are occupied, then approach the smaller groups first and try and determine who the alpha male is as this is who you should target. 

Once you have chosen your target and have approached, make your presence known with a light touch like a squeeze of his thigh or touching his forearm whilst smiling straight at him. 

One girl I know that was an absolute gun used to hold her arms out like she wanted to give them a hug and follow up with a sultry ‘Hey you’. I lost count of the amount of guys that used to just melt in her presence. 

Make some small talk. Make it fun. Make it flirty. Find his passion. 

People are generally passionate about their family, job or hobbies. Find out what it is and just keep asking questions. If you find the right topic the client is passionate about they will talk all night. 

Couple this with creating the right body language and reading his, you are on your way to getting more bookings. We will cover body language later on in this piece. 

Approaching your target

Read the body language

Look at where their feet are pointed. Are they at you or at someone else? Generally when someone is interested in you their feet are pointed at you when you are speaking to them.

Are their arms by their side or their hands are gently resting on the table in front of them but uncrossed?

If yes to the above this is an indication that they are comfortable in the situation (club, private party or brothel). 

Are their arms crossed? Have they placed a bag or jacket on their lap? 

If yes to the above this is an indication that they are uncomfortable and they are using their arms or an item as a shield. You need to put them at ease. 

Approach the female first

Getting a couples dance can be a quick way to boost your income as a lot of clubs charge dances per customer meaning you can potentially earn double. 

The trick a lot of the time is to win the woman over as she is the one that is likely to choose who they get a dance with. 

To improve your chances of winning the female over I recommend that when you approach the table you approach her side and sit down next to her, not her partner (this could be her first time to a stripcblub and you don’t want her feeling that the strippers are trying to steal her man). 

Shake her hand whilst introducing yourself and ask for her name. Whilst holding her hand and after she has told you her name look her partner in the eye and ask for his name. Then let go of her hand but do not offer your hand to her partner.

Warming him up with hot topics

Some examples of questions to open up conversation are

“What brings a cute guy like you here?”

This is designed to be a little bit flirtatious. Keep in mind you should only attempt this type of line if you are comfortable with flirting with that customer, otherwise it is best to just simply ask what has bought them in that night. 

“Have you been here before?”

If the customer says “no” a great follow up to this can be, “No! Well in that case I will definitely have to make sure I show you a good time. Are you wanting to have some fun tonight?”. 

If the customer says “yes I have been here before” you could follow up with “Yay! So what was it that made you want to come back again?”.  

Listen carefully.

If they mention it is because of a particular dancer, ask if they have come back to see her. If the answer is a firm yes ask, “Did you want me to go and get her for you or would you like to get to know me a little bit first?”. If he tells you he wants you to go and get her, go and get her. 

Don’t waste your time trying to sell a person who doesn’t want to buy from you. 

Sure, some girls will tell you that you may still be able to get the dance, and sometimes you will, but is it worth the time trying, and also to risk pissing off a work colleague because you tried to steal a client that came in to see her? 

Know when to hold them and know when to fold them. 

If his answer to yes is more generic (as in, “I came back because this place has great girls”) then continue to make small talk. 

“What do you do for fun? Imagine it’s your day off or holidays and you can do whatever you want. What would you do? Go travelling? Go fishing? Go and watch a sports game? Movies?” This question is designed to discover their interests. 

Pause. Listen to their answers. Ask them to tell you why they enjoy a particular thing or their favourite memory.

Assuming at this point you are still at the table, it is time to start working your magic. 

People love to talk about themselves and they like to feel important. There is a good chance the customer you are speaking to is either lacking in human intimacy and is wanting the girlfriend experience or they are there for a good time and want to drink and have fun. You need to identify which. 

Questions to find their passion topics. 

Work related questions

What do you do for work? 

Listen to how they respond. Is it with a smile in their voice or short and bland? People who love their jobs will usually respond with a degree of enthusiasm. Also look at their body language, did they face you whilst answering or did they continue to look elsewhere in the room? A person who is engaged by you will look you in the eye. A person who is not engaged by you will look elsewhere. A couple of great follow up questions to clarify if this is the hot topic and to further assess their interest in you, are; 

Ohh, interesting. I am trying to decide if (their role) is something I should consider doing at uni. What exactly does your job entail? OR What made you get into it?

Again, listen to how they respond. Is it with enthusiasm? If the answer is yes to enthusiasm but they appear to be not physically engaged by you ask if they would like to continue talking with you or be left to watch the stage shows?

Sometimes guys don’t realise they are pretty much ignoring you and this direct line of questioning should snap them out of it. 

If they indicate they would like to be left alone, respect their choice but leave the door open with ‘Absolutely, the girls are awesome to watch. Would you like me to come back later once you are settled in or would you prefer if I didn’t?’

If they ask for you to leave them alone completely then walk away. Don’t waste your time. 

If they have instead snapped out of their unengaged behavior and now have their focus on you or they have been enthusiastic and engaged by you follow up with another work related question like; 

It sounds like you truly love your job and I am looking forward to hearing more about it as I am seriously thinking about it as a career choice. Maybe we could talk about it some more whilst I give you a lapdance? 

At this point. Remain silent. Wait for him to speak first. Whilst waiting for his answer make sure you are smiling in his direction. 

Hopefully he will agree and you then drag him off to the lapdance room and take as much money as you can. 

If work related questions don’t seem to be getting much in way of responses but they do seem to be engaged with you try some hobby related questions like the following; 

Hobby related questions

So what do you enjoy doing? OR What do you do for fun on your days off?

Listen to how they respond. Is it with a smile in their voice or short and bland? People who love their hobbies or interests will usually respond with a degree of enthusiasm. Also look at their body language, did they face you whilst answering or did they continue to look elsewhere in the room? A person who is engaged by you will look you in the eye. A person who is not engaged by you will look elsewhere. 

A couple of great follow up questions to clarify if this is the hot topic and to further assess their interest in you, are; 

Really? I don’t know much about it. What is it that you love about it? OR Really, I love that as well! I love it when (insert action or related commentary). What do you love about it?

Again, listen to how they respond. Is it with enthusiasm? If the answer is yes to enthusiasm but they appear to be not physically engaged by you ask if they would like to continue talking with you or be left to watch the stage shows?

If they indicate they would like to be left alone, respect their choice but leave the door open with ‘Absolutely, the girls are awesome to watch. Would you like me to come back later once you are settled in or would you prefer if I didn’t?’

If they ask for you to leave them alone completely then walk away. Don’t waste your time. 

If they have instead snapped out of their unengaged behavior and now have their focus on you or they have been enthusiastic and engaged by you follow up with another hobby related question like; 

It sounds like you truly love your hobby and I am looking forward to hearing more about it. Maybe we could talk about it some more whilst I give you a lapdance? 

At this point. Remain silent. Wait for him to speak first. Whilst waiting for his answer make sure you are smiling in his direction. 

Hopefully he will agree and you then drag him off to the lapdance room and take as much money as you can. 

By now you should see there is a pattern. Find their passion. Ask every person you speak to for a dance. 

Pro Tip: don’t stay at the table for more than 10 mins (especially if it is busy). If they haven’t taken you for a dance by then they are either not interested or are wasting your time. Don’t give them anything for free. If they try to do the sneaky boob brush or try and get you to sit on their dick, take them by the hand and walk them towards the lapdance room. If they resist, walk away. You are not there to be groped for free.

Mimicking & Body Language

Touching back on my comment earlier about looking at their feet; after you have been there for a few minutes sneak a peek and see where they are pointing. If at you, great. This is a good sign that they find you attractive. If their feet are pointing away from you then it is likely they don’t find you attractive.

Knowing how to read body language and manipulate yours will help you assess prospects sooner and help you get more lap dances. 

An expert stripper not only knows how to talk a good game but also knows how to win guys over from subtle physical manipulation. 

We have all had times where we have truly felt as though we have connected with someone. 

The conversation was great and easy. 

You had that feeling that they got you. That you were in sync with each other. You could feel the chemistry. 

Most of the time, these feelings are genuine and you really are connecting with that person. You aren’t exactly sure why but it just felt right. 

Why………….?

Familiarity. Signalling.

Their actions almost mirrored yours.

Their body language signalled they found you appealing.

They spoke in a way that made you feel comfortable. 

But what does this mean exactly?

Their actions mimicked yours. When you lent forward to tell them something they lent in to listen. 

When they speak quietly, you stay within a similar volume range.

When they quicken or slow their pace of voice you follow it.

When you rested your face against your hand, they rested theirs on their first.

When they tucked in their shirt, you adjusted your bra to expose your cleavage.

They used the same vocab as you. When you said your night was ‘awesome’ they then made sure they described something as ‘awesome’ later on.

The above is body language and mirroring that occurs when you are attracted to someone.

This can faked from you to convince familiarity and signal sexual attraction.

Lean in when they talk to you.

When they whisper a secret you whisper in response.

When their voice quickens with excitement, quicken yours.

When they rest their face on their fist, rest yours in your hand.

Adjust your cleavage. Flick your hair. Lick your lips slightly. (This is grooming and you do it when you find someone attractive).

Watch to see if they tuck in their shirt, straighten their tie or tidy up their hair. Doing this are signs they are grooming themselves to make themselves attractive to you.

Sprinkle some of their descriptive words into your responses.

Couple this with engaging them with their hot topics and reading their body language will help turn you into a killer stripper.

The Sell

Start with promoting the most expensive dance first. Say it with confidence, as if the amount is lunch money. Pause. Wait for a response. Gauge to see how they respond? If you are getting vibes that they can’t or won’t spend that much then drop down to the next most expensive dance. Repeat until either successful or until they can’t afford the minimum and walk away. 

If they say “I will go for a dance later”, respond with “No problem but if we go for a dance now I will do 20 mins otherwise it will be 30 mins later on”. You will be surprised how many guys will then go for a dance then and there. 

Assuming you have secured a positive answer and you are leading him in the direction of the lapdance room. 

On the way, this time, try and upgrade to the next most expensive dance. This can work especially well in clubs where longer dances attract a small discount as you can break it down on a per minute basis. For example, “You know that it works out at $8 per minute if we go for a 10 minute dance but if we go for 20 minutes it works out at $6 per minute. Would you like to go for 20 mins? 10 minutes flys by and the two of us will only be getting warmed up by then.”

Stay silent. Wait for their response. Hopefully they will agree to upgrade. 

If they decline, say “Are you sure? Most guys end up extending and I am just trying to save you some money. It’s only [insert dollar amount] for the extra [insert time frame]. Do you want to go longer?”. 

The Lap Dance

The lapdance is about their fantasy, give them what they want and they are likely to want more. 

If they have booked you for a short dance, chances are it is about the sexual gratification, not the spiritual connection. 

If they have asked you to lay on the floor and spread yourself apart and look them dead in the eye (and you are comfortable doing it) then this indicates they are wanting to see your pussy. Show it to them. Ask if they want a closer view. 

If they groan when you run your hands over your body or squeeze their nipples, ask them seductively “Do you like that?”. Keep doing it. 

Longer dances usually indicate they want to continue conversing with you. Remember the topics they seemed to respond to out on the floor. Encourage them to tell you more. Encourage them to talk. Don’t dominate the conversation. These sorts of clients are looking for a connection. Give them the girlfriend experience. Fake interest. Make them think you are hanging onto. Every. Single. Word. 

Give them cuddles. Look them in the eyes deeply. Stroke their face. Smile like you genuinely like them.

Do they above and there is a good chance they will extend if you ask. 

Getting Extensions

A few minutes before your time is due to end, turn to your customer and go “I am really enjoying my time with you. I would like to continue. Would you like to stay longer?”

Pause. Wait for a response. 

If they say yes, go in for the kill. 

Say “Do you want to stay the rest of the night?”

Pause. Wait for them to respond. 

If it is a no then ask for the same amount of time you have just done. 

Pause. Wait for them to respond. 

If it is a no then ask for the next cheapest down dance. 

Pause. Wait for them to respond. 

If you are at a private booking a trick you can use is “Hey guys, I would love to stay longer but my agent has just sent me another booking. I need to respond within the next 5 mins or I will need to go to the other booking.”

If they tell you to tell the agent you are extending but suggest you stay for free, pretend that you would need to transfer the comms straight away so unless of course they are really willing to pay you will have to leave.

At this point you should have either secured an extension or you are saying your goodbyes. 

Saying Goodbye

This is your opportunity to secure a regular. 

Walk them out. Give them a hug.

Tell them how much you enjoyed your time. 

Tell them when you are working next. 

Ask them to come in and see you again. 

Ask them when they will see you next. 

Extra tips

Don’t swear. Some guys are looking for a girl that is ladylike and no matter how hot you are or how smart you are, the moment you swear they will never book you for a dance. 

Don’t wear glitter. Yes you look awesome. Yes you look smoking hot. Yes you make lots of money each night but I can guarantee you are losing money because guys decline simply because of the glitter (and they reeeeeaaaaaallllly wanted to take you for a dance). Glitter comes off and onto the customer and when they go home, their other half sees it and loses their shit. These potential customers are not willing to risk the wrath of their partner and will instead go with another girl who does not have glitter one. This is a dance you lost just because of glitter. 

Let that sink in. 

You spent money on glitter and guys then decided not to pay you for a dance. 

I have never, ever, had a guy admit he took a girl for a dance because she was wearing glitter but I have had plenty that have told me that they have turned down a dance because of glitter. 

Send the jug around at private bookings. The buck can’t afford a dance? Send the jug around and get everyone to chip in. Even if it is enough for a motorboat, take the money. If you do this a few shifts a week it adds up. 

It is ok to say no. Not every customer is worth it. Nipple twisters, time wasters (they want you to sit with them for too long before going for a dance), manipulators (I remember a guy that used to gaslight a stripper to the point that after spending a few nights booked all night with him that she had to take a few weeks off to recover. Once I showed her that she was losing money on average each night because of this she dropped him as a client).

In conclusion, you need to become a master at sales. This will help you not only increase your income but many other aspects of your life, including job interviews, relationships and your career. 

I hope you find this article useful and if you do please share it with your work colleagues.